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Friday, October 12, 2012

Marmite.


Hi everyone! Today's post is going to be a very different one to my usual ones. It's something I've been meaning to discuss on my blog for ages now, and it's something I want to discuss further in a future video also. I'm a self-confessed jar of Marmite. People either love me, or hate me. It's always been that way, ever since I was a child and it continues to be that way to this very day. It's something I've learnt to accept over the last few years, and is something I experience daily whether it be online, or from peers.
I've been blogging since 2009, as many of you know. Over the years, I've encountered a variety of different bloggers and readers alike - some taking a liking to me, some learning to accept me and some downright hating me. (Don't worry, this isn't going to be a big Y U H8 ME post!) I'm quite an opinionated person, I'm quite strong-willed and I'm very forward with both. The majority of people I look up to and idolise, were never ones to sit down and never speak up. Joe Strummer for example; he always spoke his mind, and didn't think twice about people getting offended or disagreeing with him. I tend to look up to people who are forward about their beliefs and thoughts, rather than look up to people who never seem to express their views on anything and are just, bland.
I'm notorious for my rants and I'm known for my expressing my thoughts, day in and day out. Over the years, I've learnt to keep my mouth shut at times for peaces' sake but most of the time, I just can't! It's simple. Tonight, for example, I had slight rant on Twitter in regards to how new bloggers expect things to be handed to them on a plate. I find myself encountering far too many new bloggers for my liking, asking where their "free stuff" and event invites are, as if these things are expected to be thrown at you the minute you start a blog. As per usual, I was wise (or so I thought) with my words - I said "some", not "all" new bloggers but of course, it offended people. I was called "unsupportive" and "big-headed" and a roll of other negative names which are on the whole, untrue. Most of you know, that I regularly ask for new bloggers to send me their links and I'll check them out, and follow them. I've always been in support of new talent. However, I just expressed my distaste for a new generation of bloggers who are only in it for the perks of the job, per say. Not all new bloggers, but a large minority of them. After said rant, I lost followers, I received insults - but I wasn't phased by it. I also received tweets from people agreeing with me, and encouraging me to speak my mind regardless of what people think. I've experimented with keeping my mouth shut entirely, and being quiet on Twitter,  but it just isn't me! People constantly say I turn people off me and "burn bridges" by merely having the odd rant or two. To be honest, I've gone beyond the point of caring. There comes a stage in life where you can either change to please everyone, or you can work on your slip ups and grow as a person, and accept the fact that people may or may not like you. I went with the latter. 
Most of my readers who have followed me from the start, have grown with me and know my ways by now. However, some people just can't accept me and dislike me. Which, I'm ok with. I used to get insulted by it, get defensive and try and prove myself to them - but what's the point? I know I have my bad days, like everyone else but I also know that I'm a good person. I follow so many bloggers, who I've followed for years at this stage, but I feel I still don't really know them or their stance in life. I believe that when you have a platform such as a blog, and have a decent amount of readers - put it to some good use! I mainly blog about fashion and beauty, but I love having the freedom to post up these spontaneous blabber posts as well - they can be helpful, insightful and hopefully inspiring! 
We all have our faults, and we're all not going to get on with every single person we come across in life. In regards to bloggers - not everyone will like you and agree with you - unless you keep quiet, of course. I know some of you might ask "Why don't you just keep quiet then, so more people will like you!?" To be honest, it's not who I am. I know, my friends know, my family know and most of you know that I'm a nice girl. Deep-down in this ranty body of mine, I appreciate every ounce of support I receive and have stayed very grounded and level-headed over the years. However, I'm also opinionated and not afraid to express my thoughts. Some people like that, some people hate it. I've accepted that, and think others should learn how to too. I receive messages from people who have gone through similar experiences, when "everyone hates you" and "so and so happened when I said this". We all need to realise that you've been blessed with a voice, use it. Why keep quiet, just for peaces' sake? I'd rather a bunch of people hated me for me being me, than everyone liking me for me pretending to be someone I'm not. Think before you speak, but don't let others hold you back from what you believe and think. I'm Marmite, and I'm proud.

29 comments:

  1. Love this post Leanne, I totally agree with you! You always say how it is and I think a lot of people admire your honesty it's really refreshing to see! :)

    http://hidden-in-the-snow.blogspot.co.uk/

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  2. Hear hear! It's always best to speak your mind rather than to keep it in. Those people who are still around after are worth having in your life. I personally think you seem lovely and I can understand why this situation is frustrating. Just keep doing you x

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    1. "Those people who are still around after are worth having in your life." - agreed!

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  3. Love this. I'm not a new blogger (although some days it feels like it) and yeah sure, it'd be sweet to have all the perks and freebies. But then I look at my blog, and realize that's never going to be me. I write about my own life, and I rant and babble and it's for me. I do reviews, but I don't do it because I have to, and I don't do it for views (although they're always nice!) I've gotten used to the fact that I rarely get comments, and it doesn't bother me. I've gotten the haters when I was going through rough times with friends, and yeah it gets ya down. But to me, it's my personal space for every one to read... if that makes sense. :P

    Keep on! I love when you bring up controversial (to some) topics because it makes me think, and you bring up great points.

    Don't let them get ya down!
    xoxo

    PS. I watched a youtube vid you did, and completely forgot that you had an accent, it was amazing! :D I now read all of your posts with an accent in my head. (I'm from Canada, so I probably have an accent to you) ;D

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  4. I think a lot of the problem is a lot of people expect a perfect girl who only ever talks about makeup/fashion/whatever and forget that there's actually a real person behind all of that.

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  5. I love this post, nothing wrong with standing up for what you believe in! It's what makes the world go round. People will always find a way of disliking you no matter what, so you may as well be who you want! (That's what i live by). I also agree with what you said about new bloggers, being a newbee myself, I get lots of people saying "follow me?" or "follow for a follow?" I think of blogging as a hobby and i'm happy just to blog for whoever genuinely likes and follow my blog! Not people who want a follow back! The world needs more strong minded, successful people like you Leanne! xxx

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  6. Leanne, I really love your blog and your videos and your style and your tastes. I know you aren't here to start an argument, but using "some" (not "all") and then lumping everyone into the "new generation of bloggers" is a little contradictory (because it negates your previous "some"). It's a petty matter of word choice but I presume this is why people were offended.

    I know a lot of new bloggers (myself included) are working really hard to get our blogs up and running to join the likes of you and Sammi and Zoe, etc. That said, I agree that no blogger can be an overnight success and that groveling for sponsorships and freebies is not the way to go!

    Just thought I'd throw in my two cents :)
    Erica (abundanceoferica.blogspot.ca)

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    1. I see where you're coming from, but I did state "Not all new bloggers, but a large minority of them." when I referred to the "new generation of bloggers"..

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    2. Hmm, alright. I thought the wording was a little confusing but I get it. Anyway, I hope all the support you're getting from new bloggers can somehow restore your faith in us (!), and whoever went out of their way to insult you is just lame :/

      Thanks for the reply xx

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    3. Ah yeah, don't worry - as I mentioned in the post, I'm consistently supportive of new bloggers, it's just a handful of them that let blogging and its concept down. Thanks a mill!

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  7. Love this post! I consider myself to be a relatively new blogger (just over a year) and I think it's ridiculous what many new bloggers seem to think fashion blogging is. You have to work hard to get to a point where people notice your blog and say "wow, I'd love to collaborate with them" or "I think my brand would benefit from being on their blog/vlog". I'm just starting to really get noticed and I'm loving it, but it's still hard. It's not something that you can easily just jump into and be at the same level as a blogger who's been going through trial and error for years.
    Also, I'm glad you're not afraid to speak your mind. If they can't stand the heat, they can get out of the kitchen as far as I'm concerned.

    xo
    couturing.blogspot.com

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    1. "If they can't stand the heat, they can get out of the kitchen" <- LOVE!!!

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  8. I can relate to this post. In high school I was considered the 'bitch' because I wasn't afraid to speak up and I was opinionated. Instead of being 'fake' and putting up a false relationship with people I didn't like, I tended to avoid them. I'm never the person to keep quiet and not say what I feel and if that makes me a 'bitch', so be it!

    I started blogging around a year ago and it's only after a few months that I've found my blog has started to take off. I'd never expect free stuff, I can't deny it wouldn't be nice but I blog as a hobby, it's something I enjoy and do in my spare time to keep me busy.

    Beth @ Beth-Bradley.blogspot.co.uk
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  9. I'm a new blogger myself and I would never be one to expect 'free stuff', although I have seen bloggers who have which I'm shocked at! I think it's great you speak your mind and don't hold back after all that is the point of blogging!

    Another thing that bothers me is when people ask 'oh follow me and I'll follow you back' that defeats the purpose! You should follow blogs that you find interesting and not just for the sake of it *rant over* haha

    http://emilyx0.blogspot.com

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  10. Well said Leanne. You can't please everyone so why not just be yourself and be truly happy?

    Even though I don't always agree with what others say (obviously, how could you?!) I would never, ever judge their opinions or turn on them for having a different point of view to me. It's our diversity that makes human beings so interesting.

    The only time I'm against that is when it hurts others unnecessarily.

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  11. I love all your rants, its good to know that I'm not the only that feels that way about things.

    I'm a relatively new blogger who been an avid reader of blogs for years. I got into to it to get my opinions out there and maybe help ad inspire someone as many of bloggers (yourself included of course) had done for me. And your right there is a new generate of bloggers expecting kick backs because they have started blogging, instead of the love of blogging itself. Great post, I really enjoyed reading it. Xx

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  12. I completely understand where your coming from Leanne,truth be told some people think things of you that they have assumed in their heads from watching your videos without even knowing you... I actually met you on a bus a few weeks ago when you were going to an event,You were a sweetheart....you were so nice even thought i was like all can I take a picture with you..lool !! you Rock at what you do so don't ever change :)
    Debbie x
    UndefinedBlueHoney.blogspot.com

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  13. Great post, Leanne! I admire your courage to speak up for yourself and say what's on your mind. The Internet is full of hateful and close-minded people and I'm glad you don't let them get you down. They're honestly not worth it and it just ruins it for the people who do love you!

    I started a blog simply for my love of beauty and fashion and just how girls were sharing their thoughts and expressing ideas and creativity, I wanted to do the same because it looked like a lot of fun. I wouldn't say there's a real blog or YouTube community in Australia, but either way I couldn't care less about free stuff or event invites! In fact, I'd probably rather not get them! It's just a hobby that I do in my spare time. Anyone who sees it as a means of getting free products and event invitations probably won't even get that far to ever receive anything. I love discovering new blogs and there are definitely some great ones amongst the crap!

    vintagemachine.blogspot.com

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  14. This was a great post Leanne. I don't even want to know where I'd be if I was quiet and kept my mouth shut for the sake of it - while short term people might get annoyed at you and even hate you, in the long run its so worth it and you'll be happier for it! I know as much as anyone that you're not unsupportive to new bloggers! The point you were making last night was completely true, and I agreed with you! it's so obvious when someone is just doing it for the money, trying to mimic 'the big names' instead of having a passion for it and trying to be their own person/blog! xxx

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  15. People just get annoyed at everything these days! I don't see what you said as offensive at all, it's true that some people do start blogs solely to get gifted items.
    To be honest I think it's your 'say it as it is' approach which makes you one of my favourite bloggers!

    Sarah x
    takemyscars.blogspot.com

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  16. I'm a new blogger and I don't expect (or particularly even want) free things. I think it's expected from certain people at the start but once they realise the work you have to put into blogging often and building up readers and making other blogging friends, the people who are in it for the wrong reasons will (hopefully) stop.
    I do it simply because I like it! :) and I speant far too much time reading other blogs, so thought I'd give it a go!
    I love your posts like this... it's so much nicer when you can really see a bloggers personality shine through!
    xxx
    http://eleanorcos.blogspot.com/

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  17. Hi i totally admire you for being so different and strong and think your a great role model if people don't like your opinions they should still appreciate them. I really like blogging but am completeley new and don't really know how to find new blogs or how people can view my blog. I would really appreciate some help xx

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  18. Hey, i love your youtube/blog and watch and like every video... But for some reason i found i wasnt subscribed to you and youtube wont let me subscribe or post a comment. I dont know why, i love your videos so much and i am unsure of why you blocked me....

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  19. Those that matter won't mind, and those who mind don't matter!

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  20. To add to what i said above i agree with you. I am a new blogger and youtuber, i had no clue about the youtube and bloggijg community until around last year. After a while i saw how many lovely people were out there and thought it was deffinatly something i wanted to do but its not about the subscribers or the views. I have 15 lovely subscribers and i am really really happy with that, ilike making the videos and making friends and that is the soul reason why i do it, to meet and watch wonderful people. Sometimes i think the reason why people make these videos gets lost in the advertising and sponsors but the real people doing this will happing doing it either way or they wouldnt continue. Your great, and real and feel like i get you and that is why do youtube because i want to know people like you

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  21. Ah this was a really interesting post! I am new to blogging, and the other day was checking my emails to find one asking me to review something, for the first time, and I nearly dropped my phone in shock when I realised it wasn't infact spam haha. It's so nice to think someone has stumbled across my blog and enjoyed what I've written enough to contact me! I personally enjoy how opinionated you are, it shows more of a personality to me.

    misskirstymarie.blogspot.co.uk

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  22. Leanne! This post was truly lovely, I love the quote 'you've been blessed with a voice, use it'. Definitely tweeting that haha. I feel that I don't use my voice enough - I need to change that. I love your opinionated posts - they're brilliant. On another note I'm not keen on new bloggers who say 'follow 4 follow' or worse 'YOU HAVE A GREAT BLOG I FOLLOWED!!!11!1' *no new followers* it seems they're just focused on the count rather than the blog they should be writing for. New bloggers should follow a blog because they genuinely like it. Your style's amazing - I know you're not even contemplating it, but don't ever change. xx

    www.awkward-queen.blogspot.co.uk

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  23. Well said! People seems to forgot if you want stuff, you have to work for it~ there's no such thing as free lunch and that's the same with blogging, if you want to be a famous successful blogger, you have to put your time and effort in!

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  24. I've just realised that this is practically me, plenty of people are my friends and plenty aren't. And I can understand that but I really dislike people having something against me or not liking me without getting to know me. Just as I'd give them a chance. Great post. x

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